How To Make Your Relationship Last |
| Date Added: February 01, 2010 09:17:54 PM |
| Author: Maxwell |
| Category: Arts & Humanities: Education |
| Having been in a happy long term relationship for what will be four years in December, I am often asked, “How do you make it last?” This appears to be the mysterious question that fazes so many teenagers when it comes to dealing with relationships. This article will shed some insight into the million dollar question, by examining what I believe to be some of the most common elements and mistakes that young people make. The first, being values and beliefs. How often does something happen in a relationship that one person believes is ok, while the other thinks it is absolutely wrong? This is so very often the case with infidelity. When two people enter a relationship, they need to establish what their individual and common values are, so that these problem causes do not occur. For example, what is considered ‘crossing the line’ will be clearly be identified so there are no excuses. This leads me on to the next topic, Communication. This is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. What I hear from friends all the time is that they “just hung up in the middle of a fight”, “used the silent treatment”, or “didn’t want to say anything as it would just cause problems”. Newsflash! People need to communicate for any problem to be resolved, or for any decisions to be made. Not communicating will not make the problem go away, only escalate it, and when you are so enthroned with anger you will eventually communicate anyway, often with anger, blame and resentment, which makes it obvious that saying what you felt in the first place would be much more effective. The third vital aspect to making your relationship last is commitment. When you are in a relationship with someone it is your duty to be fair to them, whether it be emotionally or physically. You can not expect to maintain a happy and healthy relationship if you do not commit yourself completely to the person you are with, always work hard to strengthen your love, and be there for the other person. Cheating is not commitment. Lying is not commitment. Laziness is not commitment. You really need to work hard, no matter what, if you want all areas of your love life to remain healthy. Lastly, and most importantly, you need to love, with your heart and soul. If you love someone enough, and they love you, you will be able to handle any hurdles that come your way. Loving will make you a better person. It will bring you so much joy, that is unlike anything else! Too many people ‘like’ their boyfriend but do not love them, and this leads their relationships to fade. You know when you feel something special. Love is what keeps couples strong ten, twenty, and fifty years down the track…without it, you can not have a truly loving relationship. Relationships can be complex, no one ever said they were easy, just remember to never give up, no matter what hurdles life hands you!!! |
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